Psychologist, Ph.D.
I have written a book Overcoming Your Addictions which shows you how to apply the principles of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy and CBT to your self-defeating addictions. To overcome an addiction you first need to learn to accept yourself unconditionally with your addiction. Your self-defeating addictive behavior does not diminish your worth as a person. Putting yourself down will not help you overcome your addiction. Secondly, you need to learn to build your discomfort tolerance for urges, develop a healthy network of friends who will not lead you back to your addiction, and a vitally absorbing interest in life that makes your life meaningful.