Do you feel like you rely "too much" on meeting the needs of others, or never putting yourself first? Would you describe yourself as a people pleaser, or as someone who would like to learn how to have relationships as bonuses in our lives vs. feeling our actions are guided by others or by eggshells? Claim your free consult to start changing how this feels today.
I use the work of Melody Beattie and Codependent No More to support clients with healing Codependency. Trying to fix and change another person, rescuing them, enabling, and saccrificing our own self by focussing on another person in order to feel "ok" are some of the behaviours that we use when we are involved in Codependent relationships. Through education, self awareness, proccessing, and change, we can become free from these kinds of relationships.
A co-dependency relationship is toxic and prohibits growth for you and your partner(s). You can change your relationship by yourself or with your partner.
Learning to have a healthy relationship with self and others is a lifelong process. Sometimes we can get overly reliant on others and lose our sense of self. The good news is with therapy and social supports it is possible to return to a healthy sense of self. I have tonnes of experience helping people untangle from codependent relationships and grow in self esteem.
I have taught in the Addictions Counselling Program at Medicine Hat College for more than 13 years and an important aspect of addiction is recognizing that the person who lives/lived with the addict is also greatly impacted by living with a huge part of their life being out of control (the addict or alcoholic) and the continual hypervigilance in trying to predict the unpredictable. This impacts a person's sense of self, their ability to maintain boundaries, and their future relationships. I love to work with people who have had a mother, father, brother, sister, partner, or child who has an addiction in a compassionate, supportive way to work towards regaining serenity in their lives. Increasing awareness of the impact the alcoholic or addict has had in their lives is the first essential step towards healing.