Do you feel distant and disconnected from your spouse or partner, sometimes wondering if you really know each other anymore? Are the two of you struggling to get along, resolve conflicts and communicate in a healthy, productive and positive way? Do you wonder if you even still like each other? Perhaps you aren’t fighting, but you aren’t really spending any meaningful time together either, and it increasingly feels like the love, passion and intimacy that was once the glue holding you together as a team has faded away. Maybe things between you are tense, and although you try to share your experiences or express your deepest thoughts and feelings, you worry that you partner doesn’t understand you or doesn’t care enough to really listen. Or, perhaps you find yourselves arguing about everything, from dirty dishes to finances to in-laws and parenting. Do you feel as though you’re just going through the motions or walking on eggshells when you’re around each other? Do you long to be able to rebuild the love and connection you once had that helped you both feel safe, understood and valued in the relationship? It is possible to restore happiness and satisfaction to your relationship. I know that you, your partner and your relationship are unique. I am trained in several couples approaches, and I am a Level 3 Gottman Method trained therapist.
The Gottman Method is a foundational piece of my approach, and I will adapt proven strategies tailored to fit your unique relationship as well as your individual personalities, needs and therapy goals. Generally, we begin by helping you explore your relationship on three levels:
Friendship, affection and connection
How you deal with conflict
Shared life goals and vision
In strengths-based sessions, rather than focusing on surface-level relationship or marriage problems, I will help you identify and resolve issues at their roots so that you can work toward deep, lasting healing. I will also help to cast light on your relationship strengths, collaborating with you to create strategies that bring them more fully into action.