Do does the other person have to be ok for you to feel ok? You might find working with codependency helpful! Cycles of unhealthy relationships, love addiction, codependency, putting others first, having difficulty asserting boundaries, feeling unworthy of nourishing and healthy love relationships can lead us to therapy. While interdependence - working together and strong relationships are essential to a happy life, the dance of give-and-take can get confused and confusing.
We can work together to understand what healthy relationships look and feel like and to bring the relationships in your life into a nourishing balance. In this, we come to understand your attachment patterns, the role of trauma, learning your nervous system's responses to intimacy (physical and emotional). Working in tandem with a 12 step programme isn't for everyone, but can be a great help here if that appeals to you.
Psychologist, Consultant Clinical Psychologist (HCPC registered), PhD, MSc, MSc, MSc, MA (Econ), BA (Econ) Hons
Relationships are difficult. Sometimes our need for a relationship undermines our ability to function. This is made more complex when the significant other experiences a similar dysfunctional drive. The good news: this can be fixed. It is possible to have healthy, mutually respectful, and supportive relationships.
Registered Psychotherapist, BA, MA, Post MA Dip, BPS Accred
Co-dependency is when we lose sight of ourselves and get lost in someone else; when we have never learned how to notice and assert what we ourselves need in a particular relationship. Do you put the other first and increasingly hear a trapped voice in you whispering ´´What about me?´´ Let´s coax that part of you out, find out what you need to own as yours, what independence really can look like when it is allowed in.