Do does the other person have to be ok for you to feel ok? You might find working with codependency helpful! Cycles of unhealthy relationships, love addiction, codependency, putting others first, having difficulty asserting boundaries, feeling unworthy of nourishing and healthy love relationships can lead us to therapy. While interdependence - working together and strong relationships are essential to a happy life, the dance of give-and-take can get confused and confusing.
We can work together to understand what healthy relationships look and feel like and to bring the relationships in your life into a nourishing balance. In this, we come to understand your attachment patterns, the role of trauma, learning your nervous system's responses to intimacy (physical and emotional). Working in tandem with a 12 step programme isn't for everyone, but can be a great help here if that appeals to you.
Counsellor/Therapist, PG Dip, MA, BACP Accred, EMDR Accred, 20 years experience as a Therapist
The understanding that there is co-dependance is an insight in itself. I can help you to define better boundaries in your present relationships and to understand better what may have led you to become co-dependant. You may find EMDR useful to achieve this
Resolving childhood trauma and stress will eliminate the need for codependent behavior, which stems from childhood distorted messages. Set boundaries effectively, develop self-worth, and an inner sense of safety that is not dependent on external variables.
Registered Psychotherapist, Rev, DD (hon), DMin, Various Dips & Certs.
I deal with Codependency especially to help sufferers to stop rescuing unnecessarily and to uncover Love Avoidant Addicts and Love Seeker Addicts to gain a healthier lifestyle and to enjoy fuller healthier relationships with others.