Do does the other person have to be ok for you to feel ok? You might find working with codependency helpful! Cycles of unhealthy relationships, love addiction, codependency, putting others first, having difficulty asserting boundaries, feeling unworthy of nourishing and healthy love relationships can lead us to therapy. While interdependence - working together and strong relationships are essential to a happy life, the dance of give-and-take can get confused and confusing.
We can work together to understand what healthy relationships look and feel like and to bring the relationships in your life into a nourishing balance. In this, we come to understand your attachment patterns, the role of trauma, learning your nervous system's responses to intimacy (physical and emotional). Working in tandem with a 12 step programme isn't for everyone, but can be a great help here if that appeals to you.