Psychologist, Consultant Clinical Psychologist (HCPC registered), PhD, MSc, MSc, MSc, MA (Econ), BA (Econ) Hons
He said, she said-- but did either of them listen? It is an oft-repeated truism that many relationships fail because of flawed communication. But many relationships fail for other reasons. My approach to couple counselling is to start at the end. Is there truly a prospect for these two people to experience a loving and enduring relationship? If there is, we can work out the details over the next few sessions. If there is not, we can find a way for two mature adults to part in such a way that they can both move forward to a better life.
Counsellor/Therapist, PG Cert. Systemic Practice, Dip HE Counselling, PG Cert., Supervision, NLP Practitioner Cert, PG Cert. Teaching in Higher Ed.
Marriage and relationships are great when they are going well, but what can you do when it feels like the magic is slipping away, how do you get back the communication, and overcome conflict? It might be best to have a relationship MOT. Imagine driving your car and you never service it? It needs some TLC to get it going again and that is the same for your relationship, Enrich your relationship, Explore together to understand your patterns of relating with each other and redesign your relationship so that you can once again laugh together. I am a member of the Gottman Institute where you can take the couple checkup inventory. Why not try it out today? <a href="https://gottmanconnect.com"><img src="https://gottmanconnect.com/public/img/gottman_checkup_badge.png" height="202" width="320" alt="Gottman Approved Member" /></a>
I often work with clients around their relationships, with themselves and their partners, children and wider social groups. We live in a world where it is hard to find connection to our own vulnerability and to allow intimacy. Who are we and what do we want from intimacy and relationships is a good question to ask ourselves. We may not have had great examples of a balanced relationship from our family of origin, we may struggle to find time for ourselves and maintain our sense of identity within a couple. The impact of work, money, children and family can also swamp us and we may find ourselves blaming, disconnecting and feeling angry or low. I will work with you to identify your patterns and create time for you to explore a different experience.
In addition to the project that I designed for people divorcing I also hold a professional certificate as I participated in a development course to learn to counsel couples.