Psychologist, Ph.D.
People with social anxiety often have a number of self-defeating attitudes that underpin their social anxiety. First, they wrongly think they must perform perfectly well. They also usually think that they need the approval of significant others, that it is awful to experience disapproval and failure. They also tend to wrongly believe that rejection and failure prove they are inadequate as people. I teach you that yes there are practical implications of disapproval and failure, but there need not be unhealthy anxiety about these consequences. I teach healthy attitudes toward one's self, one's rejections and failures. I teach you to have a desire to be accepted by others and do well but to accept yourself unconditionally even when you are rejected and fail.