Choosing to begin, continue, or end a committed partnership (whether it was formed around civil laws or not) are some of the most impactful choices we will ever make -- which is why the decisions are so difficult. "Processing out loud" (or, simply, talking it over) with someone who is unattached to the relationship can ease the challenge. In many cases, divorce is not a failure, by any means -- it is often the beginning of deeper understanding of self and new lives.