This is one of the most pressing questions and fears for any person who’s been betrayed. It’s hard. And that’s putting it mildly. The reality is that your whole world has been shattered and you’re on the precipice of even deciding whether or not you want to make it work with a partner who has lied to you. You may love your partner very much, but aren’t sure at this point whether or not they can be trusted. Rightfully so. Your trust has just been shattered.
That doesn’t mean you won’t ever trust again. It does mean that we’ll carefully rebuild trust between the two of you (if all parties are interested in rebuilding the relationship) and that it will take time, effort, and intention. It will be painful, yes, but where you’re currently at is also painful. It becomes a matter of deciding which painful route you want to take. And that doesn’t feel fair and, in many ways, it’s not. And that doesn’t change where you are. You can trust again, but it takes time and hard work.