Make Marriage Better (He/Him)

Approach Description: At Make Marriage Better, our approach centers around identifying and transforming the five core fears that underlie all relationship issues: 1) fear of abandonment, 2) loss of identity, 3) loss of meaning, 4) loss of purpose, and 5) loss of health. These 5 core fears are responsible for literally every conflict and every struggle in a relationship, whether anger, control, judgment, feelings of inadequacy or superiority, feeling unheard and unseen, the complex results of an infidelity, and on and on. We understand that your situation may feel so complicated, or that your options for healing may seem so limited, that there appears to be no possibility for healing. But by understanding the 5 core fears, and then uncovering the various defenses each partner has developed to protect themselves from these fears, the path suddenly becomes quite clear: we see that it was only the defenses being used, meant to help get needs met, that actually backfire, creating more disconnection and conflict in the relationship. The key to helping resolve relationship struggles, then, is to "do the opposite" of these defenses, moving each person in the couple away from self-protection and toward genuine connection. Our unique Deconstructing Anxiety communication technique offers a powerful, highly targeted way to enact this shift. By breaking down defenses and fostering open-hearted expression, this technique allows fear and defensiveness to naturally transform into profound empathy and understanding. With this, both people in the relationship can spontaneously discover a natural desire to nurture one another, restoring the love and trust that brought them together in the first place.