I am a psychologist, marriage family therapist, bioenergetic analyst, and psychoanalyst with more than 30 years of clinical experience in treating adolescents, adults, and marital couples. I am skilled in helping a person to feel understood and related to in a new and helpful way.
Psychologist, California Licensed Psychologist (License# PSY17495)
Infidelity is a frequent topic in my clinical work. Often couples will come to me following an affair and want to work on repairing their relationship. Other times a client I am working with will either have had an affair or is having an affair and is wanting to consciously figure out what to do about it. In other cases I assist clients whose spouse did have one or more affairs or is cheating. In still other cases I work with people who have had or are having relationships with married people. My approach to these situations is to not be judgmental but rather to help the parties involved to consciously address the situation. This could involve working individually with one of the parties, or with the couple, depending on the situation. As a therapist I am comfortable with working in either capacity. People in this situation find that I am supportive, non judgmental, and able to appreciate the position of each party.
Coming to grips with hurting or being hurt in this manner is more than just some words and hope/expectation that our partner will just move on. It takes ownership and understanding of why we act out the way we do
Infidelity can be incredibly difficult. Often times the partner that was cheated on is dealing with issues of trust, fear, confusion, self doubt, and depression afterwards. The partner who cheated is often dealing with shame and confusion. I work with couples to heal from infidelity and improve their relationship moving forward
There are ways for couples to get over an affair! Therapy can help a couple explore the 'why' behind the affair, learn how to grieve the feelings of betrayal and loss, and recover from the trauma of the infidelity. Couple Therapy can then help the partners rebuild their marriage and restore lost trust so that the bond is deeper and stronger than ever before!
Trust is at the core of a committed relationship. When infidelity has occurred, charting a path back to connection takes time and wisdom. A trusted advisor can help you understand why the infidelity occurred, help you figure out if you will stay together and chart a path toward connection. Gretchen has more than 15 years of experience working with infidelity and helped countless couples in crisis. Free telehealth consultation.
In my work with couples, I don't believe infidelity is the final straw to end the relationship. The challenges that are presented with this issue are great, but I believe we can work to truly find out what is best for the both of you when it comes to managing this.
Infidelity can shatter trust and leave deep emotional wounds. I offer compassionate and confidential support to help you navigate the complexities of betrayal. Whether you're the one who has been hurt or the one who has caused the hurt, I can help you:
-Process intense emotions like anger, sadness, and shame.
-Rebuild trust and intimacy in your relationship.
-Understand the underlying factors that contributed to the infidelity.
-Develop healthy coping mechanisms and communication skills.
Let's work together to heal the past and build a stronger future.