There is nothing quite like discovering infidelity. It is extremely and uniquely traumatic. You find yourself feeling and doing things that you never thought you were capable of. I have experience helping couples heal after the discovery and I have experience helping the betrayed move on and rebuild their lives. Don't doubt yourself - if you feel a bit crazy...that's a symptom of being betrayed.
I provide a compassionate framework to assist individuals and couples in navigating the complex emotions and stories that emerge with infidelity. This therapeutic approach encourages clients to express their personal experiences of resentment, betrayal, and pain, while also delving into broader relational and societal narratives that may shape their perspective of fidelity and trust. By externalizing the infidelity as a separate entity from their identity and relationship, clients gain agency to decide what they want for their relationship moving forward.
At Make Marriage Better, we understand that infidelity can shatter trust and lead to deep emotional pain in relationships. Our approach focuses on unpacking the complex layers of fear and insecurity that often underlie acts of betrayal. Through the Deconstructing Anxiety™ method, we help both partners identify their core fears—such as fear of abandonment, loss of identity or loss of meaning—that may have contributed to the infidelity. We also explore the “chief defenses” that led to disconnection, allowing partners to gain insight into their behaviors and motivations. By guiding couples to do the opposite of these defenses, we create a safe environment for honest dialogue, healing, and rebuilding trust. This process not only addresses the wounds caused by infidelity but also empowers partners to foster deeper understanding, empathy, and renewed commitment, ultimately strengthening their relationship moving forward.
Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT 144461, MA, RYT-500
Betrayal can be a devastating experience. Whether you're the person who was hurt or the one who caused the hurt, therapy can help you process your emotions, heal from the pain, and rebuild trust.
Infidelity does not have to mean the end of a union. There are so many pathways to heal from infidelity and come out stronger as a united couple and restore trust.
Marriage and Family Therapist, Certified IMAGO Relationship Therapist, MFT, and EMDR
Certified in Imago Relationship therapy in 2010. In order to deepen intimacy we need a safe relationship container that requires both partners to close their exits. Then there is shared grief after an affair and trust broken must be re-earned. The healing power of Imago Dialogues teaches partners How to stay in their committed relationship and better get their needs met with one another.