Codependency is another specialty of mine in being a people pleaser. If you are looking to find someone to complete you, you probably have codependent qualities. Codependent people find their self esteem through helping others often at ones own expense. Codependency is all about looking outside ourselves for answers/happiness instead of inward. Happiness and all of our answers to our questions lie within if we can become still enough to listen to our intuition. Successful relationships are more interdependent where we both have our lives, interests, friends, family, etc. and intersect with our partners when we are doing something together. Many of my clients have gone to Codependents Anonymous, ACOA, Alanon, etc. These are safe spaces to explore more interdependent and independent ways of being and share our experiences without being judged. There are many great books on codependency. I teach people how to become your own person not needing approval from others and celebrating your interdependence with one another when in relationship.
Setting healthy boundaries is something many of us did not effectively learn in childhood, even in the most well meaning and loving of families. We have, instead, learned to live life to serve others and to prioritize the needs of others, even when doing so harms ourselves. My approach is to help my clients create healthy boundaries, advocate for the self, learn to communicate our needs clearly and directly, and then learn to act upon the needs we have outlined to those we love so we can cultivate healthy and mutually effective relationships. Cutting the ties of codependency is central to this process: staying in one's own lane, letting others solve their own problems, offering compassion and help when asked, letting go of the rescue fantasy, living without an emotional hangover, and learning to accept that there is much we cannot control.
The work with codependency focuses on strengthening the individual’s understanding of themself through boundaries exploration and building up and highlighting the positive elements - personal traits as well as managing the difficult emotions that come with changing how a person relates to others.
I specialize in the treatment of codependency and utilize elements of self-compassion, communications skills and emotion focused therapy (EFT) to help clients improve boundary setting .
Psychologist, PsyD, Diplomate in CBT,NBCC Certified,Licensed Psychologist
Often described as the "Best Kept Secret of the Main Line." Dr. Zeiders is quietly popular for his insightful, effective psychotherapy, executive coaching and "fix it" abilities as a Psychologist. He treats anxiety, stress, shyness, depression, marital issues and addictions.
Over the years I have worked with chronic pain issues and can help in that arena not All relationships have some aspect of codependency and I work my hardest to address it work on it and resolve it.only from a psychological standpoint but work with your doctor hand-in-hand to resolve issues
Treatment Center, DSW, LCSW, BCD, CGP, FAAETS, TEP
Codependency is often closely associated with trauma, loss, or dysfunctional family systems. Because we specialize in trauma, we naturally are working quite often with codependency.
Are you stuck in the pattern of trying to protect your love one by giving in all the time? Are you finding that time again and again you have asked yourself to do it differently and you find that you cannot? Are you aware that you feelings of happiness in life are completely tied to how the other person is doing ? Is your life interrupted? One particular person has a problem? Does your heart skip a beat when the phone rings and you who is calling and you know what’s coming? It can be that your loved one has alcohol problem or a drug problem, or unable to grow up as an independent adult or that you can only be loved by your partner if you are the caregiver. Perhaps you have started feeling resentful about YOU being the one always caring, always protecting, always rescuing. Sometimes you ask yourself where are you in this equation.
I know it feels like there is no other way to live. I assure you that there is and that sharing responsibility in the relationship is freeing and brings space for creativity, playfulness, joy and connection without resentment.
I can help you move in that direction. Call me.
Licensed Professional Counselor, DA, LPC, LCPC, CCTP, EMDR Clinician
Have you lost your sense of self in your relationship(s)? Are you struggling to make decisions independent of others? We can explore the foundations of enmeshment and codependency, how they have helped and how they have hindered you.
Licensed Clinical Social Worker, MSW, LCSW, CPTS, BCPCC
Recovering from co-dependency is no easy feat, learning how to establish boundaries and detach from toxic relationships requires courage, fortitude and consistency. I will teach you through personal and professional experience how to develop the skill set necessary to overcome co-dependent compulsions and reclaim your personal power.
24 Years Experience
