Do you feel stuck in your relationship? Are you trying to recovery from infidelity or a relationship crisis? Are you ready to improve your communication, conflict management, and trust? We can work together to evaluate your relationship's strengths and areas for growth. Then, we develop a plan for me to guide you with information and tools to survive relationship stress and thrive as a team; or to move forward separately as co-parents or friends. Whether you are beginning a new relationship, working on an existing one, or trying to end one which is no longer working, I am here to support your partner and you on the journey to change.
In my work with individuals, couples and families, I am passionate about helping my clients explore what is holding them back from living their best lives. I am an active and supportive listener and will help you identify and meet your own goals for health and happiness.
My holistic approach to Relationships helps to focus on the healthiest aspect of the personality, using more flexible ways of thinking and responding positively to changes.
I am formally trained as a marriage and family therapist and received all of my training and practice though that lens. I used attachment theory and emotion focused therapy to help you and your partner make your relationship a safe place where you can turn to each other for comfort.
When working with couples or groups in sexual and/or romantic relationships, I specialize in non-monogamous, polyamorous, and other open relationships. I believe in enthusiastic consent, healthy boundaries, and mutual respect. I also
Are you struggling to communicate with your partner? Maybe you've tried couples counseling and it didn't quite work - or maybe your partner doesn't know yet that you are having doubts about the relationship.
If you want to work on your end of the relationship before bringing your partner into the work, I can help. I can help you figure out all the complicated feelings you have about what to do with your relationship. I can also provide skill-building for improving communication with your partner(s).
I believe that most of us are social beings and thrive when we are in relationship as this provides intimacy and a closeness that we crave. Intimacy is formed from being known/seen and demonstrating this for the other person as well, but this is not always so easy to achieve. Even if you met someone whom you believed was just like you, they will still have variations to their thought processes and will have a different upbringing from yours. My goal is to help you to understand what your relationship needs are, generate perspective on what your partner's needs could be, practice effective communication skills, and achieve the type of relationship you always wanted.
Isn't it frustrating to wonder what you are doing in this relationship, and whether it is worth it anymore? I get that some days are really good, and then there are those days that it feels really bad and hopeless. Wanting to have your partner listen to you and understand you really could make a difference. I mean really, isn't it baffling how you can be in a relationship and yet feel so lonely. Relationships can come with many rewards and some real challenges.
Are you newly single and want to change relationship patterns? It is it maddening to find yourself in the same situation again, and are so ready to finally experience a happy relationship. That feeling of loneliness or that darn thought of, will I ever find someone just keeps looming over you. Learning about attachment styles and how it effects your relationships can be critical to a better understanding.
I recognize that couples work often needs to go beyond the communication issues. Frequently, the conflict or tension in the relationship has much to do with the deeper, unresolved personal conflicts in either person. With this in mind, I see couples counseling as an opportunity for both people to not only advocate for their own needs, but also to better understand those needs and to treat themselves with curiosity and compassion.